Hope this phase ends....

I talked to Mr.D. the need of separation now. He listened initially. The points that I raised are:

1. Normal families do not function like this. This is an extremely dysfunctional family.
2. I have lost trust in him because of various reasons, including the case that he and his brothers solely have a WatsApp group.
3. In a normal family, according to me, everything is shared. In this family, I have no idea of what he does, his financial details, mobile, his contacts etc.. (I wanted to say that sex between husband and wife, is the epitome of mutual sharing between them. According to me, once a man and woman agrees to be in marriage, everything including their physical body is shared among each other. Since we never had any proper sex, except that he wanted a baby out of this marriage, and I feel extremely uncomfortable talking these things with him, I withheld myself from taking this point.)
4. I have a feeling that, he shows some competition to get Maria. I said that rather than we both rights on her, she has rights over her father and mother. So, wherever she is, even after separation, both will have equal rights on her and I would obviously have no issues in he visiting her, even for the duration which she would be with me. The moment he heard this he said, "I WILL NEVER COME TO YOUR HOUSE AFTER SEPARATION." 
5. Rather than all three living unhappy lives like this, it will be better if we get separated and live separately happy.
6. I, as a human being, have the right to get over my health issues. This environment has given me the diseases. Now i need to get over it.
7. I know that i will have financial struggle, once separation occurs till my PhD is over. But, I still feel it is better t be separated because, only in that case I will recover.
8. As a male, his chances of getting married after seperation is likely, so he can show Maria how a good family runs. 
9. I'm scared that, being in this family condition, in future, Maria would even say that she doesn't want to get married at all. 
10. In case of separation, it would be good if we can approach the process much peacefully than in a negative manner; this would help all three of us.

 He started responding after sometime only. His points:

1. All families are like this only. People adjust but I don't adjust.
2. Better to try to resolve the conflicts than seperation. Only then Maria would be happy.
3. I have treated him very very bad, so I dont need to clain that my disease is an aftereffect of his actions and words.
4.  I don't need to say, 'as a human being'; it sounds weird.