Friday, March 15, 2019

The not so happy updates of mine

So many things have been happenings in my life in the past four months. First of all, let me start with the best that happened. Mr.D. has moved out of my life physically. Though I'm not yet legally separated from Mr.D., the incidents related have been surprising, scary and difficult. Journaling some below:
  • Mr.D. has been calling Maria daily night, and talking to her. He has been practicing negative speech against me at the beginning. He did not share any of his whereabouts on his moving out. All of a sudden I was told that, he would move out in two days and in the fist week of Nov 2018, he moved out. Since he had plans to make me undergo stress of his absence, he neither arranged transport for Maria's school, nor any household help for me. After all, he wanted me to know that it's not possible for me to manage my life without him. He also decided not to share any of expenses that I will bear towards me and Maria. Since he was not used take our expenses from the beginning, I was neither surprised nor expected him to do so.
  • I arranged a transport for Maria, and my state got more peaceful. Mother came and stayed with me for two months. Though, she started her normal tortures towards me, I was happy that Maria will be safe with her. But, Oh! She. The lady stopped talking to me and started to give more and more tortures. After three weeks she started her mantra of wanting to go back, for various falsified reasons. I tried my level best to make her stay longer, but she denied, booked tockets through her son, and went out with the help a neighbour of mine, to her homwtown.
  • After Mother moved out, it was a bit of stress for me understand that, she had intended to hurt me at this stage of life. Doing Phd, going through divorce, and having to manage a daughter is indeed extremely difficult. Might be she felt that, by moving out she could get her own share of happiness to see me burn!
  • In the month of December, Mr.D. felt an urgent urge to meet his daughter, and decided to take her to a nearby mall. I too went along, though it was a torture for me. I was scared that he would carry away Maria. He told Maria that he would buy for her, whatever she asked for. She was thrilled and asked for many things. Each time she asked something, I saw him getting upset with the price tag. He asked Maria to get permission from me to buy those items. He expected me to say NO, to her since the items were expensive. On the contrary, I said ok to her for all the items. The poor father of Maria, had to spend 30,000+ for the day. I watched him paying through credit card and felt happy. After all, he is buying her things first time in his life.
  • I filed a notice to him, through my lawyer, asking for mutual divorce. He did not reply. 
  • So, now I am filing for my divorce, by contest, in a few days.
  • Maria has been informed of the same and said nothing back. The poor thing did not understand the seriousness.
And, I'm here fighting for my separation, all alone here!

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